one of the hardest things in life is to let go of your children and let them fly on their own. but this is the only way you will be happy and they will be happy. when another birthday passes and they get older and older, you have a feeling of sadness. that is ok, that is natural. but you must not wish to keep them young. this will only cause heartache. instead look at how much they have grown and how much your relationship has grown. it will continue to grow and you will learn to love them more and more each year. you do not really want to go back in time and re-live the years when they were young and you were younger. you already did that. now you will have more fun when they are older and you are older –you will experience more interesting experiences and will be able to become much closer to them. you will relish these moments more than the one’s in the past. the older they get, the closer you will become to them –remember this and you will not be sad anymore, you will understand and you will smile. enjoy the fact that they understand you more and you understand them more. this is one of the keys to a happier life. just live it and you will see.
i wrote about this topic in 2010, but now i understand it more. we shouldn’t feel bad about kissing ass – it is part of the natural flow in this world. essentially, everyone has to kiss someone’s ass –even if you are the president of the United States –you still have to kiss ass to get what you want. thus, we should embrace the act of ass-kissing because in order to eventually get what we want or keep what we have, we need to kiss ass. for example, you must kiss your boss’ ass, even if you are the best of friends –you still kiss it a little, so that you each know where the other officially stands. your boss then kisses his/her boss’ ass and so on – all the way to the top. even when you want to tell your boss to “go to hell” – don’t do it –just bite your tongue and keep kissing ass. this is what keeps the world on track. if everyone didn’t bite their tongue a hundred times a year, we would all be living in chaos. the world runs on kissing ass. it has always been this way and will always be this way. get used to it and don’t fight it. just become the best ass kisser and watch your star rise! one day, there will be more people kissing your ass than the asses you have to kiss -but you will always kiss ass. the goal is to kiss less ass as you get older.
this is part of the Toby Code – “never give up, never quit”. and it is part of a great quote from Harriet Beecher Stowe – “Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”
Stowe’s mindset is the key to success. what i have found that if you keep doing something and you do not stop doing that something, you will eventually find success. but the problem is that so many people, including myself, eventually stop doing that something, especially if they do not find success fast enough. so what happens is you end up with a life full of trying things, but never succeeding or finishing the job. this then leads to long days in your older years full of small bits of regret. sure, these are small bits of regret, so most of the time you will be happy. but, if you really want to go to your grave satisfied, then you need to concentrate on sticking to something until it plays out. this is the hardest thing in the world to do. why would you keep doing something that yields no immediate or quick results? you wouldn’t. 99% of the people in the world would stop doing that something and would move on to their next fancy. but if you do keep pushing yourself to keep doing that something no matter what –even when you can’t see any light at the end of the tunnel -even when you think “why am I still doing this” –then you will be rewarded. you will find out that the journey is really the main part of this whole thing–not the end result. but the real key is to think about the end of Stowe’s quote – “the tide will turn”. when you are ready to give up – don’t. because that will be the moment that the tide will turn and all your efforts will start to be rewarded. this is what every person who has reached their dreams will tell you -just like Stowe has told us and all future generations to come.