don’t overthink it

you did it, you said it, you wrote it – this is what you thought at the time – it is done – it is over – you can’t change it – don’t overthink it.  you don’t know how the other person will perceive it.  you meant good.  stop analyzing every word.  stop going back in your mind over and over.  should you change this, should you go back and say this, should you call them, should you re-write what you wrote – just stop.  they are busy with their own lives and with their own problems.  they actually didn’t think twice about what you said, wrote, did – they are too consumed in their own minds, in their own lives.  they are not thinking about you – they are thinking about themselves.  they are in their own world with their own things going on.  they are walking down the street right now thinking about their life.  they are not thinking about you walking down the street.  they are not thinking where are you and what are you thinking.  they are at the center of their world and you are at the center of your world.  so don’t go back and rethink and overthink – don’t go back at all.  just say it, write it, do it – and move on because no one is overthinking about what you said, did or wrote – except you.  so don’t overthink it because it doesn’t matter.


nothing beats the quietness of night when the house starts to shut down for the evening – when the lights start to dim – when everyone starts to settle into their beds – when the dog is passed out on the floor.  you walk around the house turning off the lights, putting on the dishwasher – feeling very peaceful about life – no worries at this time – you settle into your covers with your pillows fluffed – and you watch a few shows – and your mind drifts away from all the worries of tomorrow – when everything in your house is peaceful and you just see the glow of the appliances and the clocks in the kitchen.  this is one of the best times of the day – the best times of life – you feel at ease – you feel comfortable in the quietness of the moment.  life is ok for a moment.  this is another one of life’s simple pleasures – these are the little things that matter – the only things that really matter.

not everyone

not everyone is going to like you.  not everyone wants to be your friend.  not everyone is going to talk to you.  not everyone is going to smile at you.  some will know right away that they don’t like you.  all of this will mess with your mind.  you will try to understand why someone doesn’t like you.  you will try to talk to them.  you will try to be their friend.  but they don’t want to be your friend.  this is life.  this is how things go.  this is reality.  this is something you must understand and move on.  you might struggle for years in your mind.  it will cause you to lose sleep.  it will cause you to stress out.  you have to get past this.  you have to understand that you don’t really want to be everyone’s friend.  you don’t really have to be involved with every event.  besides the fact that it is impossible to try and spend every moment of your life being friends with everyone you meet – it is not a healthy state of mind.  it is not the way things are supposed to be.  you are not supposed to be everyone’s friend.  you are not supposed to like everyone.  not everyone is supposed to like you.  but you are supposed to grow up one day and live with this fact and realize that it is a good thing that not everyone likes you and wants to be your friend.  be happy with the friends you have.  be happy with the people that have chosen you to be their friend.  stop looking at the other side, the other group – and look at what you have in front of you.  be nice to people but move on.  make this happen in your mind.  work on this mindset.

enjoy status quo

we all want more – it is human nature.  we continue to look to the future to solve our current problems.  we think things will be better in the future.  we fear change, but deep down we want change – we want change for the better.  we know change always comes but we fight against it because we get comfortable in the current routine – the current status quo.  but even though we fight change – we don’t actually embrace the status quo.  we don’t often appreciate what we have right now.  this is a big mistake.  right now in your life many things are going well.  these are things you take for granted and don’t appreciate.  these are things you will only appreciate when they are gone.  right now people you love are still alive.  right now your family is doing ok.  right now no one you love is in the hospital.  right now you have friends that care for you.  right now you are healthy.  right now you are able to pay your bills.  right now you can walk down the street and look at the birds in the trees.  right now your status quo is good.  yes, you have struggles and you look to the future to erase those struggles.  but as you look ahead, don’t ignore what you have in the current status quo.  enjoy the current status quo because it might be better than the future status quo.