you wake up one day and you see it – you see the future – you see what you can be – you see what you have been waiting for – you see it all clearly. you know deep in your soul that this is it. you know that the light is on. you know that this was meant to be. sometimes it takes a shake up like a job loss at the right time in your life – not 10 years ago but now is the time – and you know it – and you are not afraid – you are ready – finally. you might fail but you don’t care because you have passion, you have clarity and you have something inside you that makes you feel good, that makes you smile, that makes you not afraid. this is what it means to know that your destiny is here – that your destiny has arrived and you are excited but anxious. anxiety will never go away – whether it is for you or your loved ones – but it keeps you alive – it keeps you guessing – you do not know the future – it is always uncertain – but you do know how you feel now and you know what you are doing is right – what you are doing is your destiny – so get up every day ready to go – excited – anxious – alive – wow is all i can say – i can’t explain it but it feels good. good to be alive and good to finally wake up.
when kids reach those teen years – there is going to be a lot of back and forth arguing and disagreements – there are going to be words said to your kids that you shouldn’t have said. in the heat of the moment, you forget all that you have learned about not saying everything that comes to your mind. you blurt things out, you do act mean and say mean things because you see their disdain and defiance of you – and you want to lash back – and you do lash back through hurtful words. this will happen – but what is more important is that you realize that these are unique times – the kids dealing with the teen years and you dealing with your mid-life years – they come crashing into each other. so you need to go back to your kid and you need to apologize for what you said even though they provoked you. it will only help in the long run to stop those negative memories from forming in their minds – and prevent them from acting like you did when they were teens. go apologize because you are the adult – shock them with an apology.