it is so simple to make this statement. but it is not so simple to make this phrase ring true. we all want to be happy. it is really the ultimate goal in life. if we are happy, then we are ok. if we are happy, then life is good. if we are happy, then we can make others happy around us. being happy is what it is all about. but so many people are not happy. people worry all the time. people suffer all the time. people are sick all the time. people get in trouble all the time. people fail all the time. people never reach their goals all the time. people are jealous all the time. people are envious all the time. people want more all the time. people think too much all the time. and all of these things do not cause happiness – they cause the opposite – sadness, confusion, insecurity, loneliness. so how can all of these people just be happy? the answer is simple. just be happy. that’s it. just be happy. it doesn’t matter if these negative things are happening – you can still be happy. you can look at yourself and you can look in the mirror and you can tell yourself to just be happy – it is that easy. and you can be happy. think about why these negative things don’t make you happy – and then throw all those thoughts away. you are alive and none of these bad things will make any difference at the end of the day. but what can make a difference is that you try to be happy every day. if you fall down, get up and smile. if you lose your job, wake up the next day and smile. if your worry about everything or some things – STOP! – worrying is a waste of time, literally. even if you are sick and don’t feel well – you can still be happy. being happy is a state of mind and you set your state of mind. set it to be happy no matter what else is going on and you will be surprised how those negative things will change. just be happy because that is the easiest choice you will make in life.
you must be content
you must be content with what you have. you must not wish for the greener grass. you must stop wishing for anything. this is the only way you will actually achieve your dreams. if you wish for love, you will not find it. if you wish for success, you will not find it. if you wish for wealth, you will not find it. stop looking for anything and work on being happy with what you already have – love, family, health, etc. if you look around, you will see that you are blessed in many ways. you will never receive beyond what you have until you accept and appreciate what you have. it is hard to stop wanting more – as this is human nature – to take as much as you can – to get as much as you can – to want what others have. but you must stop this thinking ASAP. force yourself to appreciate what you have. do this and all your wishes and dreams will come true
every present moment
it is hard to think about time and space and past and future and even present. we can never go too deep into these concepts and we struggle to find our place, our peace, our happiness. we can’t grab this moment right now and hold on to it. we can say we feel happy right now. we can look at the sky and the clouds and the trees and we can feel the breeze and the sun right now. we can say we are in the moment. we can say that and we can enjoy the moment or moments -but then they are gone and we move to the next present moments – some good, some bad. so it is frustrating that we can’t hold these present moments forever – we only have fleeting moments – just like time – fleeting. so all we really have is when we look back in time. when we look back, we see what we had – we see how good things were – even how much fun we had last weekend or on a recent trip. in the moment, we are there, doing it – we can think it is good, but we don’t know how good it was until we look back. when we look back, we see instant good memories and we realize – wow, that was good. like last week was good – but now it is gone. but the great thing is every moment and every day can become a wow moment. the good old days always look good and you think it won’t be the same. but today will look just as good when you look back as the old days look to you now. it is a crazy dynamic, but one that actually keeps us loving life – it allows us to then know that every present moment is actually a possible good memory in the future – so the cycle is complete and it is ok if we can’t hold on to the present moment – because coming back around to it when we look back is just as good.
it is hard to explain. it is the question asked forever by everyone. it is embedded deep in the human mind and soul. it is why we all live or die. it challenges us every day. it never relents. it is the up and down of life. it is happiness. brought to the public forefront many years ago, happiness is truly what we all strive for – but there is no such thing as constant happiness. we must accept that we will not always be happy – all the time. yet this is hard to do. we want to be happy all the time. we think it is the way to live. but once we accept that this is impossible, we must continue to remind ourselves of this very fact. we must understand that not being happy all the time is the natural way. we will have down times, so what we need to do is keep up our enthusiasm for life. knowing that life is not all roses, we need to keep the spark of life alive. we must not let the trials of life beat us down. we must remember we are alive right now – we are not dead yet – and while we are alive we must force ourselves to keep up our zest for life – we must keep that zest going – the same zest we had when we were younger. it was easier then but now it is harder – so you need to work harder to not let the spark die. like everything, you must never quit, never give up -and that goes for your zest for life too. keep it going. keep up your enthusiasm no matter what. if you don’t, then you lose a part of who you are.
there is no rest. it is a myth in life. you think you can rest. you think you can relax. you think we work to rest. you think we get time to rest. you think we have time to relax. you think you have time reflect. you are mistaken. this is an illusion. even when you do sleep in, you are still tired. yes, you sleep. yes, you do rest when you sleep. but, you are not conscious so you are not aware that you are resting. because time is always moving, you don’t have time to stop and rest. time pushes you along like a treadmill that never stops and that you can never get off until the end. this is why rest is an illusion. it is something we tell ourselves that we are doing. we are resting, but we are really not resting. it is because of this that we never feel rested. we search our whole lives for this rest, for this peaceful feeling of resting. but because time moves, we can never catch up and actually rest. and we never figure this concept out either. our mind wants to rest, but the mind is restless too – like time is restless. so, the only thing we can do is find peace in the little activities that make up the whole of the day. we can rest while we are working. we can rest while we are running. we can rest while we are reading. we can rest while we are watching TV. we can rest while we are on the web. you must find rest in the active moments of the day. this is where you will find peace. this is where you can find the answer to rest. it is in non-stop conscious activity where we can find rest. understand that and you can understand how to rest.
you must have daily happiness to get through life. you must have things in every day that you look forward to. you must have at least 1 thing per day that you look forward to. this is key to getting through life relatively happy. it can be eating lunch, it can be watching a tv show, it can be doing a workout or taking a run, it can be reading a book, it can be seeing someone, it can be helping someone, it can be the drive home, it can be doing things at work – it can be any of these things. but the important thing is that you have at least 1 thing to look forward to – that you enjoy doing – that gets you from one day to the next. if you have nothing to look forward to each day – then you must deliberately put something on your schedule that you know you want to do and you must do that thing every day. human nature says that you have naturally figured this out already – but if you are in a rut and don’t have this figured out – go figure it out now – right now. waiting and mulling through life makes no sense. why are you here – but to enjoy some things in life – and to enjoy some things in life every day. do it now.
stop and look
go outside. go outside your office. go outside your house. go outside your school. go outside wherever you are and walk a little bit. then find a place where you can stop. go to a shady area if you can. when you stop, just look as far in the distance as you can. just stop, look and relax. just do this for a few minutes. you don’t have to think of anything at all. you just have to look into the distance. move around and look the other way. then look closer to where you are. then look down at your feet area. you might see an ant moving around. just do this. just stop and look and relax. then go back inside and go back to doing what you were doing before. you need to do this. you need to take a break here and there. you need to go outside and just look. this will help ease your mind from the day’s troubles. this will help calm your mind. you can sigh as well. it always helps to sigh. stop, look, sigh, – then back to reality. it will help you get through the day.
when you wake
when you wake in the middle of the night, there is a reason. the standard reasons are always there – worried, scared, troubled. but there is another reason for waking up in the night. it is a specific reason that you must find out. it is your job to find out why you awoke in the night. your mind is telling you to look for that reason. your mind is telling you to wake up and find that reason. it is ok to wake in the middle of the night because your mind needs you to wake up. there is something you must remember. there is something your must solve. there is something you must find out. your mind is helping you. don’t look at waking up in the night as a bad thing. waking up in the middle of the night is an opportunity presented to you by your brain. you now have the chance to find out something that will help you. next time you wake up in the middle of the night – let your mind run over your thoughts. just lean back and relax – let your mind run – and you will find out why your mind woke you up. you will then be happy that you found the answer. you can then go back to sleep. you can catch up on sleep another time. you can get through the next day with less sleep. it’s ok to wake up in the middle of the night. it is a blessing. it is a gift. it is an opportunity.
nothing you can do
you know how things happen all the time. these are things that come up and cause you worry, trouble, money, fixing, cleaning, etc. and you know how they never really go away. you might get a pause here and there. but then bam! down goes the fridge. time to buy new clothes. you need that new car. sprinklers broken. get your nails done. buy those school photos. need a family trip. the AC just went out. you got stuck with extra tixs to a game. time to pay for braces. all that money going to college savings. the water bill jumped up. new tires for safety. you went over your monthly data plan. halloween costumes. spring break coming up. buy that gift for another bday party. the unexpected wedding invite – write that check for the new couple. you have always fretted about all of these things that never seem to end. but then one day you realize that they never will end until your final day here. so what is the point of getting upset. just accept it – now that you realize it – and your life will be easier. you will lose less sleep. there is nothing you can do, so relax and accept this fact. clear your mind for other things.