it is true – you can’t have your cake and eat it too. sure, you can try – but it is not advised. you can run it through your mind many ways in which you can have your cake, etc. – and you can come up with a solution most of the time. but in each of those solutions to have your cake, etc. – you inevitably hinder or hurt something or someone else. it will always be at someone’s expense when you attempt this. this will burn a bridge, leave a very negative impression and give you bad karma – it will come back around. so you need to make a choice – the cake or eating it. don’t be greedy – make a choice and live with it. the choice you make will always be better than trying to have both.