real beauty

the real beauty is there hidden deep below the outer beauty.  you see the outer beauty – you love the outer beauty – you move forward with the outer beauty – it dictates all the early moves in life.  but as time goes on, you start to see the real beauty of a person – you start to see just how beautiful they really are – in the things they do, in the things they say – in all the moves they make in life – in all the action they take – you see their real beauty.  this is the beauty that sustains a relationship, a marriage, a partnership.  you don’t even know that you see this real beauty because you are too close – but then one day it hits you.  you are in love with the real beauty of this person.  they are real and they are with you and they are beautiful.  the outer beauty can wane – but the real beauty flourishes and grows – you see it blossoming higher and higher.  when you see this real beauty – you don’t think about outer beauty as much – you don’t look around as much – you only see the real beauty next to you and you want more and more – there is no reason to look for outer beauty.  look at the person next to you and see the real beauty – see the person that has been through all the ups and downs with you – and see how their real beauty has surfaced and pushed you through these things.  when you know this and see this – you will never look away again.

show love and support

you need to show love and support to the ones you love.  you need to do this often.  you need to take advantage of the moment and show love.  this is the only time you will be able to show this love and support for this particular need at this particular moment.  if you miss the moment, then you need to tell that person that you are sorry you missed the moment to support them – and then show that love and support at that moment of reconciliation.  so often, a person is looking for that love and support and so often, we do not give it.  this leads to a lifetime of missed moments and only creates more space between the 2 people — which is not a good thing when you want the relationship to last a lifetime.  if you can recognize at the moment that love and support is needed, you are ahead of the process.  but, this is a hard process to conquer.  the better move is to get in the habit of showing love and support on a regular basis.  this will help you cover those critical moments when love and support is needed the most.  don’t get down on yourself for missing that moment today – go back and correct it at the first possible next moment together.  then get in the habit of doing this regularly –  and you will not miss this moment again and your love for each other will grow – rather than wither away by not being conscious of these things.  these moments are very important to your own stability and the stability of others.

the gift of love

when someone loves you, you need to be very aware of that fact when you are dealing with them on a daily basis.  because they love you, they will allow you to be negative towards them without any consequences.  this is a gift they have given you and you cannot abuse this gift of unconditional love.  and because you have this gift -this freedom to say what you want without consequences –you must be very careful not to abuse it.  to abuse this gift is very easy to do. you see no consequences, so you lash out without thinking –and this just causes you to create habits of not being nice –of putting all of your insecurities on this person –in the form of being mean.  this person will always love you and will never leave you.  this makes the gift of unconditional love even more fragile.  handle this gift with care and do not abuse this gift.  if you do, then your loved ones will suffer and in the end –so will you.  your life will have less meaning and you will be ashamed of your actions over the years.  stop abusing this gift now.